NLP for People Who Don’t Face Problems Well

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) on 02-07-2012

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If you travel by air, you know that when your plane takes off, the pilot tells all the passengers to stay in their seats with their seatbelts buckled.  At times during the flight the pilot will warn “We expect turbulence for a few moments, so please stay buckled up.”  When you start any new lifestyle, job, business, or transition, you too will experience turbulence.   

Strong people expect to experience problems on their journeys to their goals / destinations. Weak people are surprised and dismayed when things don’t work out the way they had anticipated.  They become angry, lash out, blame others for their problems.  Some become depressed or irrational.  Your success is largely determined by your ability to effectively respond to problems as they arise.  Anyone can learn strategies to deal with problems effectively.

Firstly, expect to have problems, disappointments, temporary failures. Don’t be shocked, surprised, or angry when they occur. Instead take a deep breath, relax, and say, “let’s tackle this”.  Each time you solve a problem you will become more capable of solving even bigger problems.  The major reward you get for solving problems is the opportunity to solve even bigger problems.  Superior people are solution oriented.  They think about solutions and what can be done instead of problems and who is to blame.  They are future oriented and continually think in terms of the actions that they can take immediately to control the damage, minimize the problem, and move ahead.  One of the best strategies you can use is to practice mental preparation for problems.  Resolve in advance that no matter what happens, you will remain calm and relaxed.

When you deal with unexpected turbulence in your professional or personal life, you will keep calm, clear, and focused by asking questions rather than (over)reacting.  Firstly get the facts.  What exactly is the problem? How did it occur?  Sometimes the solution is contained within the problem.  The act of asking questions keeps you calm and in control.  Focus on the solution.

Once you have clearly defined the problem and pondered the actions you can take to solve or minimize it, the next step is to take responsibility for taking action or assign responsibility for taking action to someone else.  Think about actions you can take.  Just as a pilot facing turbulence keeps both hands on the wheel and the eyes on the gauges, when you experience problems, you must take command of your situation and ensure that you are flying in the right direction.  You become a pilot of your own destiny by effectively dealing with the inevitable storms that occur in your work and personal life. And if you feel that you still need a copilot for navigating through a current problem, contact me.

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