Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) on 04-04-2010
Here’s a case of difficulties with handwriting. The man who contacted me said this verbatim:
I’m an engineering student. Til class 8 I used to write with my right hand, but I don’t know what happened to me and I started facing problems in writing. After trying a lot I was not able to regain my handwriting and faced problems in letters a. s, and others. Eventually I was not even able to write ‘0’ properly. So I started writing with my left hand. I practiced a lot and it went fine for a few years. But from last year the same problem started arising in my left hand too. Now I’m very depressed and tense about my future. I can’t understand why this thing happens with writing only. It works fine for every other thing I do. I even went to a psychiatrist. But he said there was no problem. Please help me.
And here’s how I worked with him:
I told him that a psychiatrist would not help him, because his issue would be outside the psychiatrist’s expertise. My first advice was that this man not waste time on psychiatrists in future. To say there’s no problem is gross: there obviously is a very real problem, so we tackled it together:
1. I told him that his depression was natural, because he felt stuck and didn’t yet know how to deal with the issue. I advised that he do his best not to let depression eat him up, because if he does, it’ll completely shut him off from absorbing any learning and start the vicious circle of depressed – closed to learning – more depressed – more closed to learning… He must be in a receptive state if he wants to deal with a problem. I advised him to stay depressed for now if he doesn’t know how else to be, but do his best to turn it down as much as he could. How? Ask yourself:
(a) How am I de-pressing myself?
(b) How am I letting this issue control me?
(c) How can I acknowledge the positive intention of the depression and make up a more useful state?
(d) How can I make this difficulty into a valuable learning experience?
2. If this problem occurs in only one context, this may be because that context is a symbol [or anchor] for something negative that had happened in this man’s life at or around the time when his right hand writing went wrong. I asked this man to examine his life around and at the time when the problem with right hand started.
(a) What was happening in all other areas of his life then?
(b) Did he have major worries about anything then?
(c) Did he react this way to some negative thing that occurred to another person he knew?
(d) Did he react like this in protest to someone / something elsewhere in his life then?
The answers might be surprising. Whatever it be, go with it. If this is where the key to the problem is, he now had the answer which he could evaluate from a new perspective and admit that his brain overreacted which caused the right hand shut down.
Next I asked him to examine his life again – this time around and at the time when his problem repeated itself in the left hand.
(a) Did the right hand circumstances in his life compare with the left hand circumstances?
If yes, is there a pattern? A recurring theme?
If not, what is obvious?
(b) What were the messages in both sets of circumstances?
(c) How could this man use the positive intentions of the messages from both sets of circumstances to teach his brain to put it right?
3. People often believe that something in their brain / hand / arm stops working. This is nothing more than a belief. Once you find the positive intention of beliefs and reasons why they were formed, you can change your beliefs.
4. Writing is a visual activity. This man as an engineering student was highly visual. If his brain had a power cut in protest or reaction to overwhelm by some life circumstances happening at or around that time, his brain simply symbolized its power cut by giving him inability to write letters like a and s. These letters are very similar in lower case, so my theory would make sense. E written in lower case is another letter that I suspect the man might have problems with.
When learning new handwriting, firstly observe the shapes of the problematic letters. Look at them and observe exactly how the lines curve and straighten. Try “drawing” the letters with your eyes = let your eyes follow and exactly trace the letters. Do this slowly at first.
Once you become better at this, see the letters and copy what you see on a paper with either hand. This is how you begin to write again.
Another good exercise is:
Take a picture which is printed on paper.
Turn the picture upside down.
Copy it line for line. At first you may think “I’ll never do this”, but let yourself go with it and you’ll be surprised at how well you WILL do it!
Contact me for more help resolving difficulties with handwriting with NLP.