I’ve heard some people say that NLP doesn’t work several times over the years, and that inspired me to write this note. Why do they say that NLP doesn’t work? How come that it does work for all the rest? What did the people for whom it didn’t work miss?
NLP doesn’t work because many people use NLP to attack only one factor of the system that makes something in their lives not work. We are systems, we live in systems, we create systems of beliefs, strategies, thinking, actions. The people who I’ve heard say that NLP doesn’t work for them used NLP for tackling only one aspect of their system in question and left all other components of that system intact. Then there’s absolutely no wonder that NLP doesn’t work for them. Many NLP techniques even include a step that checks the ecology of a new solution / strategy. Many people don’t use this ecology check, and not using it, of course, results in NLP not working for them.
Saying that NLP doesn’t work is also a generalization which is easy for a listener to take on the face value. When the listener hears someone say that NLP doesn’t work, the listener can fixate in his mind that NLP doesn’t work, because the listener highly likely won’t look beneath the surface of the speaker’s phrase. The listener only hears the tip of the iceberg of the speaker’s experience and if the listener doesn’t drill into the iceberg, s/he’ll never know what led the speaker to saying that NLP doesn’t work. In today’s society everything is getting more and more superficial, thus I doubt that many listeners will bother to drill into the speaker’s iceberg. They’ll just take the generalization that NLP doesn’t work on a face value and carry on living. What a pity!
NLP doesn’t work if it is used to attack only one factor of a system, just like getting slimmer doesn’t work if a person only exercises, but doesn’t eat the right things at the right time in tandem with the exercise. Luckily, NLP won’t do any harm while exercising might aggravate the joints in such case, but the person’s generalization that NLP doesn’t work will do harm – to all the diligent practitioners of NLP out there who have made it work in millions of people’s lives – and the generalizing person too, because a generalized view is somewhat impoverished by the nature of being generalized.
If NLP hasn’t worked for you so far and after reading this you are prepared to give it another chance, let me help you.