Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) on 08-09-2010
Many parents are rightly concerned that if their children have learning difficulties, they might find entry into schools of good quality and reputation difficult and that the “reputation” of learning difficulties would follow the children for life. What’s the wider perspective?
Albeit we now have much more knowledge and understanding of learning difficulties, the stigma around them is still present and a few more generations will have to die out before it disappears – if it ever will. This may sound harsh, but such is human nature that it will judge differences in others which it is not familiar with, nor knows how to deal with. Even private education doesn’t guarantee that a child’s ‘condition’ will be managed the right way by the right people. As I already wrote here, extra time in exams and for schoolwork doesn’t do children with learning difficulties any favour in the long term. Nor does the fact that in some countries teaching assistants are untrained and often unqualified people who apply for the job to get out of the house and earn some extra or to contribute something to the community with the best of intentions.
Mainstream education worldwide is only beginning to understand how to deal with the confusions of the brains of people with learning difficulties and thus still employs ways of working around instead of with them. Frustrated parents do the same at home, whether out of pure frustration by feeling helpless, fear of the unknown and of their lack of ability to deal with the unknown, guilt, or anything else. Many parents get stuck in the vicious circle of trying to cure the problem with the very thing that had created it while offering various incentives for doing the work to their children who aren’t getting further with their work – nor any more eager to plunge into it!
So what’s the cure? Not giving in to diagnoses, but working toward raising the children to their greatest possible independence definitely is the key to lightening this great problem of our society. Choosing the way of not placing the children into special needs schools – unless their ‘conditions’ are so severe that communication with the environment is difficult or impossible, a small financial investment in carefully chosen expert advice [oh yes, I know this one is difficult!], and treating these children as equal partners in life from as early an age as possible instead of mollycoddling them are further ways every parent can implement to contribute to making the world a better place for all. And all this would then automatically increase the chances of children with learning difficulties more easily getting into better quality schools and the job market! Do you agree?
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