NLP for Speech Problems

Filed Under (NLP coaching learning difficulties) on 01-02-2016

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How can NLP help people who have speech problems?  One speech problem and how NLP did help is here.

The problem

I often mix up my words when I’m talking (i.e. Sam and Nancy will be Nam and Sancy).  I thought that I heard one time that it is called a ‘picalepsy’ and it is a miniature seizure of the brain.  In researching on the web I can’t find anything at all like that.  Now I’m wondering if I’m crazy.  Do you have any clue about what I’m talking about?

The solution

What’s happening here is simple: you’re so excited and often impatient to tell your listeners what you want to tell them that the words come out uncontrollably fast and get mixed up in the speed, because your brain produces the words faster than you can pronounce them.  This is common and the only thing that’s crazy about this is the speed that your brain works at, which I mean as a compliment!  I’ve heard that the human brain processes information at 32 frames per second.  If you turn your hand 90 degrees in the wrist and back, that will take 2 frames per second.  So imagine how fast your brain works if we take the 32 frames per second as real!  But your mouth doesn’t work even half as fast, so there’ll be an inevitable time delay every time you pronounce your thoughts.  And because while you’re pronouncing one thought your brain is already seeing three, four, or a hundred thoughts ahead of the one you’re pronouncing, there’s absolutely no surprise that you mix words or letters up!

So how can you improve this?

1. Shed the attitude that “you have x“.  Labels are dangerous for your progress and personal development!  What you’ve done is common: if we don’t understand something, we seek explanation.  Most adults aren’t comfortable with not having explanations to what they don’t understand, because adults like to be right and feel that they know things. So we research things on the internet.  And the research will reveal all sorts of labels.  Your label was picalepsy.  And once you found this label and saw that its explanation matched what you believed about what was happening to you, you said to yourself: “Aha!  Here’s the explanation!  Now I understand what’s going on!”.  This is exactly the psychological state that puts many people into the comfort or complacency zone.  Once they find their explanation, they use it as an excuse for future inaction.  You haven’t fallen into the comfort or complacency zone, because you’ve gone further to ask me for advice. It’s up to you to implement my advice or just read this, leave your computer, and say “no, this doesn’t fit with what I believe”.  How you’ll react is up to you. If you do start improving your issue, firstly shed the attitude that you have picalepsy, brain seizure, or anything else.
2. Channel your energy to observing yourself.  Start observing exactly when you mix words up and exactly what happens when you mix words up.
  • Were you too excited by the content of what you were saying?
  • Were you speaking too fast?
  • And were you breathing high in your chest?
  • Were you seeing too many pictures of the content of what you were saying?
  • Were you eager to say it all at once?
  • Did you feel like you lost control?

Then you can observe:

  • how you feel
  • what state you’re in when this happens
  • whether there tends to be a pattern to when you mix up words
  • whether you only mix words up when speaking to certain people
  • what influence those people have on you, how their presence affects you, e.g. are you in awe of them, in love with them, or intimidated by their authority, etc.
3. Once you start observing yourself, you’ll pick up valuable clues that will start telling you the story. And you’ll start connecting the dots.  When you know yourself better, you can improve and tweak things one by one.
4. Visualize the content of exactly what you want to say before your mouth pronounces it.  When you visualise the content, you’ll organize your thoughts. That will automatically slow your processing down. And you will have more time to pronounce one thought at a time.  Then you won’t feel so rushed to tell it all at once. You’ll breathe deeper while speaking – and you won’t breathe so high in the chest [which I suspect you are doing a lot now].
5. You can engage in breathing exercises to teach yourself to breathe down in your diaphragm and then tummy.
6. Grounding will also help you.  Read about grounding and learn to ground when you need to.  It’ll give you a lot of learning and answers to why this is happening to you.  You may currently be very ungrounded.  When you learn to ground yourself, the rest will [often] come naturally.
Dear reader, if you know someone who has exactly the speech problem described here, now you know that solving it is no rocket science. Sometimes things really aren’t complicated. If you’d like to get NLP help for your or someone’s speech problem, let’s talk about it.

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