NLP and Confusion

Filed Under (NLP life coaching) on 01-10-2010

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How can you use confusion to your advantage?  How can you work with confusion and NLP?

Children grow up in a confusing world and often seem to be able to tolerate confusion much better than adults.  Many adults become uncomfortable when confusion befalls them. Some adults even fear confusion.

How do you respond to confusion?

  • Do you feel bad and want it to go away? or
  • Do you imagine how you’ll enjoy finding out how the pieces fit together?

Ask yourself:

  • How well do I tolerate uncertainty?
  • What happens when I feel out of control?
  • Do I feel OK when confusion arrives?

The structure of confusion is simple: if you don’t know something, you cannot be confused.  You will only be confused when you already know some of the pieces, when you have incomplete information and partial understanding. Confusion is the gateway to understanding and the prelude to integration.   This can also be motivating and encouraging for you to find what you’re missing. Therefore welcome confusion rather than avoid it.

Deal with confusion with NLP:

  • When you notice you’re confused, acknowledge it.
  • Ask yourself: What else do I need?
  • Is there missing information (=environment – where & when)?
  • You don’t know what to do (=behavior – what)?
  • You don’t know how to do something (=capability – how)?
  • Does it conflict with what you believe or value (=why)?
  • Is it not fitting with your sense of self / identity / who you are (=who)?
  • Or does something beyond who you are confuse you? If yes, how will it fit into the grand scheme of life?

Once you have this clear, you’ll more likely welcome confusion into your life.  Confusion is there to remind you of the pieces you know and give you direction for search for the pieces you don’t know. Still confused?  Let’s see if help with working with confusion with NLP will deconfuse you.

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