NLP for Pushing Ourselves

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 16-09-2018

Despite all the advice of coaches, fitness, and personal development professionals from years past to push ourselves to achieve more etc. I’ve found that pushing ourselves is not effective for a large percentage of people. Here’s one NLP perspective on pushing ourselves.  Read the rest of this entry »

Why Some People Claim That NLP Doesn’t Work

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 16-07-2018

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I’ve heard people say that NLP doesn’t work for them, and that inspired me to write this note. Why do they say that NLP doesn’t work?  How come that it does work for all the rest?  What did the people for whom it didn’t work miss?  Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and Retail – How High End Brands Let Themselves Down

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 18-05-2018

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Retail is detail and so is NLP. High end retailers spend crazy money on being at the high end of the market so that they can justify the crazy prices they charge for their products.  But how they tremendously let themselves down at their core – in the people they employ.  The NLP coach explains.

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NLP for Breaking Vicious Circles

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 03-01-2018

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We all know too well how hard beginning to build or getting back into good habits can be.  Breaking vicious circles  to get into virtuous ones is the hardest thing for many people, which is why many poor or fat people remain poor or fat, etc. But equally, people who have broken the vicious circles and are now riding the virtuous ones will tell you that the pleasure of them is a thousand times stronger and longer than the best orgasm…  They have broken the vicious circles, which suggests that anyone can. But how?  NLP tells you here.   Read the rest of this entry »

Grounding & Ungrounding Effects of Arts and Learning Difficulties

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 03-11-2017

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Since people with learning difficulties are inevitably highly visual and creative, thus often highly artistic, heightened artistic abilities and creativity can be a drawback in the context of literacy, numeracy, and other learning difficulties.  But sometimes the solution rests within the problem, so here’re some grounding and ungrounding effects that arts have on learning difficulties:  Read the rest of this entry »

Why Too Many Trainings Aren’t Good for You

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 03-09-2017

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Surely there’s nothing like too much learning.  Learning never stops and we’ll never know everything. So isn’t it the case that the more we learn, the better? Won’t we be better experts in our fields the more courses, trainings, seminars we take? So why aren’t too many trainings good for you?  Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and Self-sabotage

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 03-07-2017

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Why do many people sabotage themselves when they approach the peak of having done so well at something they’ve been improving, developing, building for a while? How can NLP help stop this self-sabotage happening and shift ourselves to a higher ground?  Read the rest of this entry »

Why Your Family Member or Friend Will Never Be Your Coach

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 02-05-2017

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It’s amazing how many people would immensely benefit from coaching, yet don’t wanna pay for it, because their argument is that they can’t afford it or wouldn’t wanna talk to a stranger about their problems. They think that talking to their family members or friends about their problems will do the job, and perhaps even better, because the family member or friend knows and will understand them.  Here’s why this approach won’t work and coaches have tremendous value in and to the society. Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and Numerology: a Successful Collaboration

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 02-03-2017

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How are NLP and numerology different and complementary to each other?  How can they each and combined help any person understand themself, their strengths, and limitations?  Read the rest of this entry »

Why Keeping the Momentum of the Life Coaching Process Is Important

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 01-01-2017

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Many clients who start life coaching tend to start skipping the weekly sessions after the first two sessions, thus break the momentum of the coaching process up by excuses of other priorities.  Why is it important to discipline oneself to keep the momentum?

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Why Coaching Over 3 – 4 Months Adds More Value Than Coaching Over 4 – 6 Weeks

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 20-11-2016

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Many coaches offer the coaching process of 4 or 6 weeks and then offer their clients the possibility to extend the it.  In the field of executive coaching asking clients to prepay 3-month blocks of coaching sessions is standard practice. And now more and more coaches are jumping on the bandwagon by offering 3-month blocks to their life coaching clients.  Why does this approach add more value than the traditional 4 – 6-week approach?  Read the rest of this entry »

NLP, Metaphors, and Health

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 18-09-2016

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Many people say that the older they get, the slower their ailments heal, or the worse their health gets. Many others say that their injuries never fully healed. How do those people encourage and discourage healing without realizing it?   Read the rest of this entry »

NLP, Energy Clearance, Learning Difficulties

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 14-06-2016

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Why is regular clearing of the energy field vitally important for people with literacy / numeracy related and other learning difficulties?  Read the rest of this entry »

NLP Energy Clearing Process

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 17-03-2016

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How can you clear your energy field the NLP way?  Why is energy clearance important?  What can it help with?  Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and Relapses

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 20-01-2016

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Why do we relapse just when we’re beginning to do so well?  What is the message in our relapses?  Read the rest of this entry »

NLP Chunking and Negotiation

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 13-11-2015

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I wrote about the usefulness of NLP chunking for memorization and remembering here and for learning difficulties here.  But NLP chunking can be used in any context.  Here’s how it can help in negotiation.
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Do Guarantees for Success of Life Coaching Exist?

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP, UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 16-09-2015

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One person recently having asked me this question inspired me to answer it publicly and add the answer to my site for others’ benefit.  Read the rest of this entry »

Looking for a Life Coach?

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 03-05-2015

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Perhaps you are, which is why you’ve come to this blog post. But then, there’s so much information out there, there’re so many life coaches within Toronto or London UK alone, and there’re so many areas all these life coaches specialize in… so where do you start?  And how’s the service of life coaching administered? Read the rest of this entry »

February 1 – a Better Time to Start on New Year’s Resolutions?

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 30-01-2015

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Be enriched by reading on if you live in the northern hemisphere, because in the southern one, while enjoying the height of summer, people have absolutely no reason to even dream of issues this article will discuss! The gist of this article also won’t apply to you if you’re a person whose motivation and determination to reach your goal is so strong that nothing will distract you from reaching the goal. But if you are a person whose motivation can always be strengthened, read on – and get some good coaching! Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for Mixing Up Words in Speech

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 24-12-2014

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Mixing up words when speaking is many people’s problem.  They look for medical names for this issue on the net, yet find none, because it boils down to a simple phenomenon described in this entry.  Read the rest of this entry »

Grounding Exercises for People With(out) Learning Difficulties

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 08-11-2014

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This entry will help you if you have come across grounding and how useful it is for anyone anywhere in any situation, but still struggle with how to get grounded.   A few ways how are outlined below.  Read the rest of this entry »

So You Say Psychology Isn’t Important?

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 05-10-2014

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It’s incredible how many times I’ve heard people [especially in the corporate professions such as transport, law, IT, banking, and a few others] tell me that they were worried about people who take a degree in psychology, because psychology was too wishy-washy, uncertain for the prospect of getting secure jobs on the basis of a degree in it, and somewhat not as important as were their professions [of course they’d say that!].  Their core argument was ‘we need lawyers, we need IT almighties, we need transport, we need bankers, but we don’t really need psychologists’.  These same people would also tell me that the number of people who go for a degree in psychology is the highest of all degrees simply because psychology is the easiest degree to get and if one wants a degree for the sake of the paper to give them the passport to a job in any field, a degree in psychology is an obvious choice without needing too much effort.  But then…   Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for Poor Spelling, Difficult Reading, Slow Math

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 02-09-2014

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Here verbatim is an issue one mother approached me with and which I deem worthy of sharing with all parents facing similar issues.  As you read, you may recognize that you and your child have long been struggling with something similar – and say “Finally!  Here’s what I’ve been looking for for ages!”   Read the rest of this entry »

How Do You Know When to Ground Yourself?

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 01-08-2014

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How do you know when you’re ungrounded and need to get grounded when you’ve never come across grounding before?  Here’re some signs:   Read the rest of this entry »

More on Grounding and Learning Difficulties

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 03-07-2014

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Since I learned that grounding was an essential factor in dealing with learning difficulties, I always teach people how to make it part of their lives.  It’s free of charge and side effects, universally done, totally natural, and inevitable for dealing with any learning difficulties.   Here’s more on how grounding can help regardless of whether you [or someone you know and are thinking of while reading this] have [has] learning difficulties or not.   Read the rest of this entry »

Why Teaching NLP in Schools Would Benefit Societies

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 04-06-2014

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The inventor of the idea of sex education being taught from early grades in schools thought that it’d be beneficial to societies in the same way as I’ve been maintaining for years that teaching NLP would.  How?  What payback would governments get in the long term if they implemented this idea?     Read the rest of this entry »

5 NLP Tips for Legal Professionals With(out) Learning Difficulties

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 27-04-2014

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Can lawyers and legal professionals affected by learning difficulties get help for them without incurring too much cost in time, money, and energy?  If yes, how?   Read the rest of this entry »

Happy – or Crappy New Year?

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 01-01-2014

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Here we are past the doorstep of a new year again, but how many of us have actually become “better people” with the clock’s strike of 12?  Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for Higher Productivity and Efficiency

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 20-11-2013

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Your mind is one of your most precious assets.  You must be continually working to increase the quality of your thinking.  So how can you make every minute count in your professional development?   Read the rest of this entry »

NLP Chunking for Learning Difficulties

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 30-09-2013

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The NLP principle of chunking information is described here and, as mentioned in that entry, it’s good for your memory.  But NLP and chunking information is also beautifully used and usable in helping people deal with learning difficulties.   How?  Here’s the lowdown:    Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for Creating Fulfilling Life

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 28-07-2013

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This is the age of achievement.  Never have more people accomplished more things in more different fields than  these days.  More people are becoming successful at a faster rate than ever in history.  There have never been more opportunities for you to turn your dreams into reality than there are at present times. Despite this fact there’re always plenty of people whose lives are the opposite of fulfilling…  How come?  If it was really so hard to make life fulfilling, how come there’d be so many successful people who know how to make their lives fulfilling?  Here’re the 7 launching pads of this rocket science… Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for Dealing With Rejection, Criticism, Disapproval

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 31-05-2013

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A major source of stress in life is the fear of rejection, criticism, or disapproval.   Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for Preparation

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 24-03-2013

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Prior planning prevents poor performance is the original version of the 5Ps.  I’ll now modify it to prior preparation prevents poor performance.  Almost the same thing, but I’ll expand on the preparation p in this entry.  So be prepared!   Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for Maximizing Your Effectiveness

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 05-01-2013

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Implement these 2 tips on a regular basis for the rest of your life to keep yourself focused on getting your most important tasks completed on schedule.   Read the rest of this entry »

5 Tips for Un-Learning Difficulties Anywhere

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 04-11-2012

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NLP for the Time Inefficient

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 04-09-2012

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You need to stand back on a regular basis and analyze yourself, your life, your usage of time.  You need to become a master of your time rather than a slave to time pressures.    Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for People Who Don’t Face Problems Well

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 02-07-2012

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If you travel by air, you know that when your plane takes off, the pilot tells all the passengers to stay in their seats with their seatbelts buckled.  At times during the flight the pilot will warn “We expect turbulence for a few moments, so please stay buckled up.”  When you start any new lifestyle, job, business, or transition, you too will experience turbulence.    Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for Accumulation

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 03-05-2012

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One of the greatest success principles is the law of accumulation. This law dictates that everything great and worthwhile in human life is an accumulation of thousands of tiny efforts and sacrifices that nobody ever sees or appreciates.  Everything accumulates over time.  You have to put in many tiny efforts that nobody sees / appreciates before you achieve anything worthwhile.  It’s like a snowball.  A snowball starts very small and grows as it adds millions of tiny snowflakes and continues to grow as it gathers momentum.    Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for People Who Have Trouble Relaxing

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 04-03-2012

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I’ve met many people who don’t know how to relax due to being stuck in living in the fast lane.  These people live the paradox of wanting to be highly productive all the time to please everyone [at once], yet often achieving the opposite.  That’s partly because regular relaxation is essential for long life and personal effectiveness. Here are 8 techniques for physically relaxing used by the most successful and highest paid people.   Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and Forced Efficiency

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 02-01-2012

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The NLP principle of forced efficiency dictates that there’s never enough time to do everything, but there’s always enough time to do the most important thing.  How does this work?   Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and To Do Lists

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 04-12-2011

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Long to do lists are often a challenge for people.  Most people feel demotivated and overwhelmed when they look at a list with more than 10 items on it.  The longer the list is, the more likely we are to focus on the simple tasks we can do the fastest.   We want to start things off quickly, many of us like immediate gratification for their efforts, and it makes the list look shorter.   So we find the easiest tasks to get us going.  We may have the intention to do some more complex tasks later, but invariably get sidetracked.   And by the end of the day the list looks just as daunting as it did at the beginning.  Sounds familiar?  So what’s the cure?   Read the rest of this entry »

3 NLP Tips for Learning in the Classroom

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 15-10-2011

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If you are currently studying in a classroom environment, these 3 tips will help you dramatically improve your learning experience in every lesson!

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NLP for People Who Ask for Help and Don’t Act on It

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 23-09-2011

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How many times have you heard / read this phrase before?  People ask for help, yet when they get it, defer acting on it and are doing themselves disservice.  But why do they?

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Visual Teaching or Visual Learning?

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 11-09-2011

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One of the challenges of teaching is that when the teacher can’t see what a learner is visualizing, there’s nothing for the teacher to mark / evaluate.   Read the rest of this entry »

How You Can Help Stop Poor Literacy / Numeracy

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 30-08-2011

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Poor literacy / numeracy is the number one reason for young people quitting school and the number one block to them being employment ready after leaving school.  This trend is easy to change as more people are understanding how our fabulously talented visual children and adults operate.   Read the rest of this entry »

The Difference Between Visual Teaching and Visual Learning

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 15-08-2011

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Showing someone a picture is visual teaching.  If you tell a tale about a fairy, every person listening to the tale will make different pictures of the fairy.  This is visual learning.  When you’re teaching a fact, such as the shape of Canada, your learners need to see it.  But if you tell them exactly what their fairy should look like, you’re stiffling their creativity.   Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for Financial Professionals in Retail Banking

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 31-07-2011

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If you are or know a financial services representative or a financial advisor in retail banking or an independent financial professional, you [or that person] can enhance your [their] performance by simple NLP tricks. Here they are:   Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and Being Direct vs. Being Rude

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 07-07-2011

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The case of my friend whose volunteering as a counselor for a charity had recently been halted by her program coordinator for “being too direct with the clients” inspired me to write my view of this topic.  Is being too direct good for your clients – or anyone?   Read the rest of this entry »

Is It a Learning Difficulty or a Matter of Perspective?

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 11-06-2011

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The following case inspired me to share another important point: in some cases it isn’t a learning difficulty, but the [lack of] perspective of the person who appends the learning difficulty label.  Let me demonstrate.  The shortened wording of the enquiry I received follows:  Read the rest of this entry »

NLP, Learning Difficulties, Eye Movements – What’s the Connection?

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 05-06-2011

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Several people with learning difficulties who I worked with clearly confirmed that there definitely is a connection.   So let’s explore it.

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Why Help Never Gets to Those Who Need It Most

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 14-05-2011

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The answer is simple: because two reinforcing feedback loops operate here.  A familiar name for the reinforcing feedback loops is virtuous circles.  As you’ll see below, these two circles operate at the opposite ends of one continuum, thus in this sense one of the feedback loops / circles will be perceived as virtuous and the other as vicious.  But in the sense of reinforcing the action in itself even the vicious circle is virtuous, because it results in more of the same action and therefore reinforces it.  So why does help never get to those who need it most? I’ll explain by demonstrating the principles of the two opposing reinforcing feedback loops on a few examples.

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NLP Chunking for Memorizing & Remembering

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 20-04-2011

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How does NLP help to improve memory performance?  Psychologist George A. Miller carried out experiments on human processing of information and discovered that the maximum amount of bits of information that people could deal with simultaneously was between 5 and 9 or in other words 7 plus / minus 2.  A bit of information is the amount needed to make a decision between two equally likely alternatives.  For example, the result of tossing a coin will produce one bit of information.   Read the rest of this entry »

Watch Your Language Around Young Children

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 17-04-2011

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Taking It Literally….

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 13-04-2011

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If you’re a parent, minder, or teacher of very young children, bear the following in mind.   Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for People Who Work With Computers

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 09-04-2011

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If you work at the computer for long periods of time no matter what your profession, … Read the rest of this entry »

NLP, the Legal Profession, and Sport

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 23-03-2011

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The legal profession may be paying well, but the money is earned in much more subtle ways than meets the eye of the member of the general public. No lawyer avoids the stress of the profession, such as demanding clients, pressure to increase the firm’s revenue, doing all possible to prevent clients being enticed by competitors, reduced secretarial and paralegal assiastance, increasing costs, new and more regulations, etc.  Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and Energy

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 20-03-2011

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How are you voting with your energy?  What do you want in your life?  What are your highest values?  Is [for example] peace of mind important to you?  How often do you do what it takes to cultivate your peace of mind?  Or is connection a high value of yours?  How often do you choose to connect with people? Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and Money

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 16-03-2011

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You’re voting with each amount of money you spend.  Spending money is a political act as much as or even more so than casting your vote on election day.  Every time you buy a product or service you’re helping an individual or a corporation to stay in business.  Your vote says that you want that product or service to exist in the world.   Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and Time

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 08-03-2011

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Every minute we’re voting with our time.  Think of the options of saying yes and no to exercise. By saying yes to one activity we’re saying no to another.  We’re voting. Read the rest of this entry »

ADHD or Auditory Problem?

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 02-03-2011

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My 4 and a half year-old daughter refuses to color, write, read, and play independently.  She heads straight for the TV, computer, or anything electronic she can get her hands on.  She’s very bright.  I’ve had to take all the computer games away, sell her iTouch, and disconnect the TV.  I also have a 14 years-old son with ADHD. When he gets home from school, they play off each other.  That’s when the yelling starts.  My daughter doesn’t listen, doesn’t want to follow directions, I have to lock her in her room
with a timer set for 5 minutes for her to get dressed.  My husband is in complete denial.  I am bipolar, ADHD, depressed, and medicated.  My son is on lamictal and it wears off too early.
My daughter is the problem.  What do I do?  Who do I see?  What kind of Dr. do I bring her to?  School says she recognizes her words, but only when copying them, not trying on her own.  
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Could You Help Me With Writing & Math?

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 23-02-2011

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“When writing, I can’t seem to say what I’d like to…
…and when I go to my math class, when the TA [teaching assistant] is there, she explains all to me, but when she isn’t there, I don’t understand the teacher. Then I just start drawing and get told off.  I learn well through colors, so what I tried to do is instead of writing with black ink I used coloring pens.  It really works.  But I get really stressed in my class when the girls [my classmates] shout and argue.” Read the rest of this entry »

Is Mainstream Education Here Just to Make People Conform to Society?

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 16-02-2011

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The mainstream education system in many countries exists primarily to give secure comfortable jobs to large numbers of people while giving the appearance of providing a service.  This is just as bad at higher level of education as it is at primary level and this phenomenon is apparent elswhere in the public service, particularly in health and government.  In any group of people engaged in any activity there is a percentage of those who can’t do it at all / properly, or can’t be bothered, another percentage of those who are satisfactory or mediocre, and then the top 10% who are committed and excellent.  Unfortunately the activities of the 90% serve to frustrate the best efforts of the top 10%. Read the rest of this entry »

Reading & Language Delay in an Autistic Child

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 11-02-2011

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I sincerely hope that the following entry will give some helpful pointers to people you know with a similar problem. Read the rest of this entry »

Common Reasons for Poor Handwriting

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 01-02-2011

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  • If someone spells poorly.  It’s easy to hide spelling mistakes in messy handwriting.
  • If someone has letters moving in his/her head when s/he looks at the page.  Movement makes handwriting indecipherable.
  • If someone’s internal pictures fade away quickly.  The fast fading of an internal picture will not enable the brain to notice the details in the picture and will cause a blur / mess in the mind – and handwriting.
  • If someone believes that there’s something motorically wrong with their hand / arm.  This belief will provide an excuse for poor handwriting as well as a barrier to the person’s motivation to attempt improving it.
  • if someone is ungrounded.

Contact me for more NLP help with poor handwriting.

NLP for Jetlag

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 17-01-2011

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How can travelers minimize the effects of jetlag? In at least 4 NLP ways: Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for Speech Problems

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 09-01-2011

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Problems with speech were an issue I was once approached with.   And since it inspired me to think of many more people wrecking their brains over a similar dilemma, here I share what I advised this woman. Read the rest of this entry »

Exercises for Sharpening Your Visual Skills

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 18-12-2010

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The following 3 exercises will sharpen your visual and observational skills and improve your memory.  The key is to do them regularly until you feel proficient and automatic at visualisation. Read the rest of this entry »

When Children Can’t Write Properly…

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 11-12-2010

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Here’s another valuable experience a parent in Toronto approached me with and that will be beneficial to many a frustrated and helpless parent. Read the rest of this entry »

Assessments & Testing for Learning Difficulties

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 12-11-2010

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If you’re reading this perhaps because you’re in a similar situation to that described below and searching for solutions, and if you apply what’s written here, it may give you just the solution you need, yet one you’d never have thought of. Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and Language Development

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 21-10-2010

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Acquiring vocabulary grows slowly. After 1 year a few new words are added each month.  The 18 months-old knows between 3 and 50 words and a 2 years-old knows 50 words or more.  From then on… Read the rest of this entry »

NLP Reading Into Reading…

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 05-10-2010

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People often present to me the issue of being able to read longer words well, but – paradoxically – being stuck on short words.  Why is that? Read the rest of this entry »

More on NLP and Language

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 21-09-2010

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In my first article on NLP and language I told you that this topic would be comprehensive enough to its own chapter! After all, NLP has the linguistic part in its name: Neuro-Linguistic Programming.  So here’s another perspective on language.  In addition, this entry could fit into the UnLearning Difficulties category of this NLP blog as easily as it does into the one of Life Coaching and NLP since many learning difficulties revolve around language… Read the rest of this entry »

Quality Schooling for Children With Learning Difficulties

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 08-09-2010

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Many parents are rightly concerned that if their children have learning difficulties, they might find entry into schools of good quality and reputation difficult and that the “reputation” of learning difficulties would follow the children for life.   What’s the wider perspective? Read the rest of this entry »

Learning Difficulties in the Workplace

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 03-09-2010

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The workplace is no exception to the occurrence of learning difficulties.  Many affected people have turned theirs into creative opportunities.  But what about the rest? Read the rest of this entry »

NLP & Interpreting Dreams

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 24-08-2010

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What do our dreams mean?  How can their content connect with our waking lives? Read the rest of this entry »

How Reading, Writing, & Spelling Difficulties Are Connected

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 20-08-2010

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A frustrated parent contacted me with a fabulous query which I’ll share here.  If you read to the end, you may find a lot of answers to the difficulties of that special someone you know…   Here’s what the parent said… Read the rest of this entry »

Dreams, Dreaming, and NLP

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 17-08-2010

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There’re many theories about why we dream.  Dreaming is purposeful, not the result of random brain activity while we sleep.  Dreaming is thought of as the unconscious mind’s way of processing the day’s events, sorting through memories, learning from what has happened, and planning the future. Read the rest of this entry »

Why Reading Bedtime Stories to Children Is Important

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 20-07-2010

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Don’t underestimate bedtime stories if you are a parent and want your children to do well at school and in life!  Reading to your children will encourage them to get their imaginations going = visualize the content of what you’re reading.  This will help develop their visual memory useful at school for spelling, reading comprehension, learning lists, dealing with numbers and mental arithmetic, and in life. Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and Language: I Didn’t Mean It That Way!

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 20-07-2010

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One of the peculiarities of the English language is the phrase “do you know what I mean?” And another is the phrase “I didn’t mean it that way!” NLP has repeatedly proven that yes, you did mean it exactly that way at the time when you said it! How come?  I’ll show you…    Read the rest of this entry »

Why Many University Students Hate Lecture Notes

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 14-07-2010

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The answer is simple: because they find the content of lecture notes [and textbooks and other study materials] hard to take in.  This is demotivating because students see no progress in learning, feel the struggle… So how can we help? Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and Language

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 16-06-2010

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Language is in the heart of NLP and in its very name too!  NLP means Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Here I concentrate on the linguistic part of our programming.  So language definitely deserves a huge chapter!  Language is important because be it verbal or nonverbal, it is the basis of communication of living creatures.  Animals have their language.  And if language wasn’t important, would people develop hundreds of its forms?  How is NLP connected with language?  And what tricks can an NLP-lay member of the general public take home from this blog and apply to his/her life?

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Grounding and Learning Difficulties

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 09-06-2010

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Have you ever wondered where ADD, ADHD, dyspraxia, dyslexia, dyscalculia, and other learning difficulties stem from and how you could help yourself or someone who had any of them? Read the rest of this entry »

Why Criminals Act With Positive Intentions

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 07-06-2010

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When I say that every terrible act that a person commits, be it murder, rape, theft, or whatever else demonstrates the basic [NLP] principle that every – even the most terrible criminal – behaviours has a positive intention, many people don’t understand and look at me like I’m crazy when I say it to them. Read the rest of this entry »

NLP Submodalities for Learning Difficulties

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 28-05-2010

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…are exactly what my work is based on.  If you just stumbled upon this article and are not familiar with what submodalities are, check out my two posts devoted to explaining it here and here. Read the rest of this entry »

4 Practical Uses of NLP Submodalities

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 25-05-2010

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Here they are.  I hope they’ll benefit you! Read the rest of this entry »

Instant NLP Help for Slow Reading

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 20-05-2010

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Are you searching for advice on slow reading?  Learn from the story of a college student I worked with:

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NLP Submodalities: the Little Things That Make the Difference(s)

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 18-05-2010

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I worked with a man in whose coaching process the central theme was how he could use NLP submodalities in his daily life.  So I’m inspired to offer some answers here.  But what are submodalities?   Read on.  All will be revealed – in a language that you’ll understand!

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NLP for States for Presentations, Meetings, Public Speaking, Teaching

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 05-05-2010

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How can formal education, corporate, and business environments benefit from NLP?

Has it ever crossed your mind how… Read the rest of this entry »

Giving Students With Learning Difficulties Extra Time at Exams Is Counterproductive

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 27-04-2010

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A client had undergone an operation of his shoulder.  When I saw him, he said something that inspired me to touch on an important point that not every reader will like.  He said Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and States

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 25-04-2010

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Have you ever wondered why on some days you feel tired, slow, lazy, unproductive, and hate yourself for it because you feel that the million things that should be done are not being done and time is ticking?  Many of us have those days.  And many of us feel powerless to do anything about them…  Read the rest of this entry »

Why Does Mainstream Education Still Grapple With Learning Difficulties?

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 22-04-2010

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It’s fascinating how paradoxical life can be.  We live in the era of knowledge and information.  Some of us understand that learning difficulties are not genetic, but are unconsciously learnt during the course of any “affected” individual’s life.  We see countless government initiatives for better learning [costing billions] all over the world, yet despite all this the largest societal formations, such as mainstream education systems, still live in the past – and don’t seem to be in any hurry to change!  Read the rest of this entry »

The Principles of NLP

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 16-04-2010

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Here they are:  Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for Problems With Handwriting

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 15-04-2010

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I worked with a man who used to write with his right hand, but one day suddenly wasn’t able to write the letters a and s and eventually anything with that hand.  Even o became problematic!  Then he learnt to write with his left hand and did so for years until one day the same happened as did with his right hand!  Everything else in his life was OK except writing. He was a student and was pretty depressed about the uncertainty of his future etc. …

So I advised him to Read the rest of this entry »

Why We Hate Legal & Corporate Documents & How We Can Improve Them

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 14-04-2010

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Simply because they’re confusing. And why are they confusing?  Because they’re vague.  And they’re vague because of the language used in them.  Read the rest of this entry »

Are We Born With Dyslexia?

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 13-04-2010

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The belief that we are born with dyslexia [or dyscalculia, which is the numerical version of dyslexia] has been drummed into us for decades, so there’s absolutely no wonder it’s so prevalent amongst members of all generations.  But countless experience has proven that the answer to this question is Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for Dealing With Negative Experiences

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 11-04-2010

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Every time you remember some situation, your brain will give your memory one of these two structural forms:

  • you see your remembered experience as if you were there and in it, in your body, looking through your eyes, or
  • you see yourself in your experience like on a movie screen, physically separated from your body

The first form is that of being associated into your experience.  The second is that of being dissociated from your experience.  More familiar synonyms for associated and dissociated are subjective and objective. How  can you use these two perspectives to better deal with negative experiences and strengthen your positive ones?    Read the rest of this entry »

Vision Versus Visualisation and NLP

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 09-04-2010

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Vision is not the same as visualization.  The words are similar, but their meanings are different.   And although it may sound surprising, I’ve seen many people confuse these two words and this confusion result in unnecessary halts to people’s education, growth, progress.   So let’s clear these differences.

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NLP [Strategies] for Shopoholics and Other Impulsive Behaviours

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 07-04-2010

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Why do some people shop til they drop? Because they use the wrong strategies.  When you understand your strategies, you will discover the key factor(s) driving (some of) your behavior.  Then you will be able to choose whether to make changes to your strategy.  Read the rest of this entry »

NLP for Difficulties with Handwriting

Filed Under (UnLearning Difficulties With NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 04-04-2010

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Here’s a case of difficulties with handwriting.  The man who contacted me said this verbatim:

I’m an engineering student.  Til class 8 I used to write with my right hand, but I don’t know what happened to me and I started facing problems in writing. After trying a lot I was not able to regain my handwriting and faced problems in letters a. s, and others.  Eventually I was not even able to write ‘0’ properly. So I started writing with my left hand.  I practiced a lot and it went fine for a few years.  But from last year the same problem started arising in my left hand too.  Now I’m very depressed and tense about my future.  I can’t understand why this thing happens with writing only.  It works fine for every other thing I do.  I even went to a psychiatrist.  But he said there was no problem.  Please help me.

And here’s how I worked with him:  Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and Arguments

Filed Under (Life Coaching & NLP) by NLP-Life-Coach on 02-04-2010

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Why do arguments tend to escalate and nothing gets resolved anyway?

I’ll take you through one of many reasons with NLP.  People are naturally different and their differences sometimes show up most strongly in arguments.   Read the rest of this entry »